He's a Shell of His Former Self

At work last week I met myself just a straight up demoralized human being. He must've just gotten broken up with because he was giving me and everyone around him sob stories about how he wasn't really drinking because he was trying to be "responsible". And then he was mentioning his ex girlfriend, clearly he was nothing but a shell of his former self.

What happened was that she broke up with him because he wasn't responsible or grown up enough. If a woman is telling you at 28 years old that you're not grown up enough for her than she better be 50 years old or you need to have a serious intervention. However, let me side with the guy for a second on this one. Men don't grow up, they just get bigger.

Now he was trying to be responsible I guess because he wanted to get her back. But if that's what you're trying to do as a guy, she's already won. You shouldn't let a woman change who you are. Meaning that if you want to go out and get hammered on a Wednesday night, then you go out and get hammered on a Wednesday night. There was obviously a reason she liked you, you can't just change that.

Turning into this boring dude isn't what you should be doing. If the old you saw the new you, the old you would kick your ass. Gentlemen, don't change who you are just because a woman breaks up with you. If she doesn't want you, someone else will.