I often complain on this blog that chivalry is dead and guys
treat girls like bros nowadays, especially in Boston. Getting a guy to buy you a drink here is harder than
breaking up with Taylor Swift.
Then you get the guys that will buy you a drink, but expect a blowjob
right after. My experience with
one said bro was the inspiration for this post. Guy buys me a drink on a pub crawl, even after I politely
insisted he didn’t have to, and then proceeds to become increasingly angry when
I keep refusing to hook up with him.
The night ended with me buying him a beer out of pure exasperation that
he wouldn’t shut the fuck up about buying me a drink. Hello, buying one drink over the course of 5 hours does not
entitle you to own me for the rest of the night….I mean, c’mon I’m at least
worth the late night pizza meal.
Now I can guess what most guys reading this are thinking:
“Girls say they want us to treat them well but then get mad when we buy them
drinks...bipolar bitches man.” NO. STOP RIGHT THERE because I can guarantee the
argument you’re about to use is wrong.
I’m about to break it down for you gentlemen on how to go about buying a
girl a drink so you can weed out the bitchy gold diggers, the ones that aren’t
interested, and thereby ensure you get the most BANG for your buck.
The Bartender Wingman- One of the
best ways to buy a girl a drink is to ask the bartender to send one over to
her. If she’s interested (and not
a total bitch) she should come over to you to say thanks. If she doesn’t, then you’re only down the
cost of one drink that probably would have been 4 or 5 if you went up to her
the old fashioned way. If you’re
not scared of looking like a total pussy you can even write a note on the
napkin to send it over with.
The Walk Away- If you feel the need
to approach a girl, start off by saying you wanted to buy her a drink just
because she looks: pretty, fun, interesting…insert compliment here. Chat her up
for a bit, then say it’s no pressure but you’ll be over in another part of the
bar if she wants to come find you for a second round. If she does, you know she’s making an effort to talk to you
and not your wallet. I personally
do this all the time and it’s like shooting fish in a barrel. Nothing turns people on more than a
little chase and mystery.
So neither of those are pure science but they work wonders
at a bar. For one, guys can see
which girls are willing to make an effort to talk to you as opposed to just
scam you for free drinks. Not to
mention it takes the pressure off chicks because we have the opportunity to
walk away without feeling guilty that you’re spending all your money. See? Girls can be reasonable too.
Disagree, a man should not be buying a woman anything unless she has earned it through an initial conversation. Gifts should not be showered upon women just at the sight of them, that's rather pathetic. Rather, the man should engage the woman in conversation and if, and only if, the woman proves to be worth spending money on, should it be done. I personally would not buy a woman a drink unless she fit a certain criteria within the initial encounter (and that criteria is not only physical attributes). I half agree with the 'walk-away' technique, but once again I would remove the drink offer. The approach should be made, then attraction built (by the man) then walk away. It's supply and demand: show her something she might like then take it away. If attraction was built correctly then she'll find you later, if not, who cares there are plenty more women in the bar.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous- I 100% completely agree with you. Women (and men) shouldn't be getting whatever they want just because they happen to be good looking, have a vagina, big muscles etc... Actually, it is kind of sad that what used to be a polite gesture meant to show initial attraction has now turned into a psuedo-social obligation where SOME men and SOME women expect guys to just be buying drinks left and right for women that most likely are not interested or just in it for the free stuff. My problem with this is that when a guy does buy a girl a drink there is also now the social expectation that she owes him in some way. There's no room to take the pressure off if the person receiving the drink isn't interested. As evidenced by my example above, in the interest of saving him a few bucks I tried to make it clear I wasn't interested, still ended up having to explain why I wanted to go home alone to a very pissed off guy. The whole idea behind this post is actually proving your point. Let's all stop this notion that guys have to buy girls drinks just because they are chicks, and then said chicks own them a sexual favor (or vice versa), and actually figure out who's worth that initial polite gesture and if they want to return the affection.
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